Emotional Dependence

Emotional independence is one of the most positive qualities a woman can have. By becoming independent in such a way allows you to take back the control you once had and since have lost. You stop letting others control your every move and how they make you feel by cornering your emotions by their reactions. Ever get tired of someone dictating your every move or get tired of you doing everything wrong? Words will always hurt because it’s something at the moment you say and can never retract no matter how many sorries you say! When you free yourself emotionally, you allow that control to become nonexistent. Too often we tend to find ourselves pairing with people who are broken. Broken in a way of past relationships or trauma of the sort. It is not our job to fix people. I know that this is easier said than done and if you are anything like me a nurturer then you tend to think it is your job to make that person better. It goes back to the “bandaid”, we constantly think that by covering the “boo boo” it will fix it. Well..that is the wrong thing to do because eventually the bandaid falls off and sometimes when it gets uncover it will either become infected, sting and at the very last stage it will heal. But think about it, just like anything its a process..sometimes we take on the task of someone healing and although this is great on your part, it may not be for the other person. In order for someone to heal they have to want it to begin with and let them take initiative if they really want it. Always remember that you don’t need to be validated as a woman by anyone no matter what! Know your worth, hold your value, stand your ground, know that you are enough and when the dusk settles.. you will be right back on your feet.