Co-dependency

Have you ever been a position where you lost yourself because of relationship? This is when you focus so much on your relationship that you don’t know who you are anymore. A relationship should never define you and I dislike the term “they complete me”! Truth of the matter is that no one should complete you but compliment you in a relationship. This is when the two grown people can relate with or without one another and both can add value. If you do not have this type of relationship, then something is off. Relationships should balance each other out and not to out do the other. Sometimes we get so caught up we tend to forget who we were before the relationship. I can tell you I have been guilty of this on the past and it sucks. It feels like you lose interest in all the things you once loved. You develop a sudden fear, even feel anxiety when you are all wrapped up in this relationship you once thought that you knew. All in All.. relationships take work and sometimes one person will do more than then the other and that is okay so as you sure have a mutual understanding of things. Let’s think💡 We are not in the olden days where the men used to go out and work and support the family and the women stay at home. In today's society both husband and wife work to support their families or in some cases some can afford the lifestyle of being a sole provider and vice versa. My point is a life is too short to have any regrets… Sometimes we tend to think that life is greener on the other side or even that what's in front of us is it. It's OK to not be OK and I think a lot of us fear of being alone when in reality it can harm us in the future. Instead of taking the time to resolve and heal ourselves from past experiences or even relationships we tend to do opposite of this. I often have seen so many of my friends go through this where they envision this perfect relationship and in all reality what they really need to do is sit down and reevaluate their situation. Sometimes we take these things for granted and on other days we just settle for what in front of us. This is not the way life is supposed to be. I can tell you until I'm blue my face and if it doesn't work for me I'm the first to leave and run because I never want to live with regrets of being unhappy. I did this when I was younger and now that I am in late 40’s so much I could of done to change. I couldn't help the cards that were dealt to me at that time but now..I would never settle again to make someone happy nor be in a relationship because of children involved. I know it's easier said than done but when things are meant to be everything tends to fall into place. I never knew what strength was until I had children that depended on me for the right direction. With that respect I have raise the most humble smart amazing children who are my life and the air I breathe. Every sacrifice, every trauma that I endured I took it with a grain of salt not knowing the outcome but knowing I had three children that depended on me gave me that strength to hold on a little tighter that allowed me to move into the right direction. I'm here to tell you that I survived and if I had to do it again I would because I am at the very place I needed to be in my future.