Narcissistic People and how do we attract them
It is an unfortunate truth that many of us have encountered narcissistic individuals in our lives. Whether it's a romantic relationship, friendship, or workplace, narcissists have a way of infiltrating our lives and leaving us feeling emotionally drained and manipulated. We may find ourselves repeatedly drawn to these individuals, wondering why we are a magnet for narcissistic people.
So, why do we attract narcissistic people and here’s a few things I came up with:
Compassion and Empathetic - One reason why we may attract narcissistic people is our empathetic and compassionate nature. Narcissists often seek out empathetic individuals who are willing to put others' needs before their own. Our caring and nurturing demeanor can make us an ideal target for narcissists who crave attention and validation. Unfortunately, our empathetic nature can blind us to their toxic behavior until it is too late.
Low self-esteem and self-worth - At times, our own insecurities can make us vulnerable to narcissistic people. Those with low self-esteem often find themselves seeking validation and acceptance from others. Narcissists, with their charm and initial display of idealization, may prey on our vulnerability. They feed off our need for approval, making us feel special initially, only to later devalue and manipulate us. Our desire to feel worthy and loved can cloud our judgment and keep us trapped in toxic dynamics.
Unresolved past traumas - Another reason for attracting narcissistic people lies in our unresolved past traumas. If we have experienced emotional abuse or neglect in our earlier years, we may unknowingly seek out individuals who resemble the dynamics of our past. Familiarity, even if it was toxic, can feel safer than the unknown. Narcissists may exploit these unhealed wounds, exacerbating our pain and perpetuating a cycle of emotional hurt and this hurts like hell when people see this vulnerability .
Lack of boundaries - This is huglack of boundaries and assertiveness can contribute to our attraction to narcissistic people. It sucks in ways you can’t imagine! As that saying goes its not you, its them.
