Mourning of a loved one
Mourning the loss of a loved one is an intricate journey, carved with the profound impact their absence leaves behind. Grief, an emotion entangled with anguish and sorrow, becomes an intimate companion during this painful passage. As I write I can’t help to remember my greatest lost of my grandmother. She was everything and since the day she died she took a piece of me with her, a void that can never be filled. It’s crazy how grief can make complications, making the act of mourning even more challenging.
The intense emotional attachment we form with our loved ones is both the joy and the struggle of our relationships. The depth of our love makes the loss all the more excruciating. The void left by their departure brings forth an assortment of emotions: despair, loneliness, anger, guilt, and profound sadness. You know the old saying..if we only had one more day. The magnitude of these emotions can feel/be overwhelming, trapping us in a whirlpool of conflicting feelings.
Mourning often feels like you are acknowledging of the finality of death and the reality that we must learn to live without our loved ones. Yet, the fear of letting go, whether it be of unforgettable memories, shared experiences, or the unique bond we once had, can hinder our ability to mourn fully. We may cling to the pain of loss as a way to hold onto what is now only a memory, afraid of forgetting or losing connection with the person we held so dear.
Society's expectations can significantly influence our grieving process. We are often pressured to conform to societal standards that dictate how long we should grieve, how we should express our grief, or even when it is appropriate to resume our daily lives. The truth is we never stop mourning and we can never forget.These expectations can damper our mourning process, leaving us unsure of how to continue the overwhelming of emotions we experience. It becomes a struggle between societal norms and our own individual journey towards healing.
The aftermath of losing a loved one is often accompanied by practical tasks: funeral arrangements, legal matters, financial obligations, and familial responsibilities. All of this can be quite overwhelming and can get quite nasty. In my mind people can be so aggressive and so consumed with unnecessary thoughts and things. Reality of it all is that once you lose a loved one there will forever be an emptiness. Until we meet again, forever in our hearts xoxo💋
